Anger Management – What is it? Could you or your estranged spouse benefit from it?
There are numerous reasons why couples split up. Untreated mental health conditions and/or serious behavior disorders are at the top of the list.
In my practice as a divorce attorney, it is very common to see one or both parties exhibit a great deal of animosity towards one another. The inability to control one’s anger can also result in incidences of domestic violence between a couple and a subsequent Order of Protection/restraining order.
Some anger during a divorce proceeding is completely normal. Anger is part o the grieving process and is expected. However, there comes a time when a person’s inability to mange their anger can be a serious problem.
How to Identify an Anger Problem – Questions to Ask
- Do I lose my temper easily and frequently?
- Do I have a low tolerance for frustration?
- Do others find my behavior intimidating?
- Have I hurt people close to me because of my anger?
- Have I lost my friends, family or my job because of my anger?
- Have I tried to control my anger but failed?
- Does my anger cause me to be destructive?
If you or your partner exhibit even some of the above-mentioned behaviors, it might be time to take an anger management course. An anger management course provides participants with tools and strategies to manage one’s anger and channel anger in a more productive manner.
Below are some anger management techniques that can be used to help cope with the upheaval of divorce:
- Writing – write out your feelings in a journal; write a letter but don’t mail it.
- Take a “time-out” – don’t interact with your ex/soon to be ex until you have cooled down.
- Discussion – try to have a meaningful conversation with your ex.
- Choose your battles carefully.
- Seek professional help.
- Take responsibility for your part of the marriage break-up.
Has your spouse’s anger caused your marriage to deteriorate? Are you seriously considering divorce? Contact The Shah Law Firm, LLC for a consultation.
